16 Lies about Forgiveness

Forgiveness means what the person did was OK.
Forgiveness is immediate – an instant happening. It comes all at once.
Forgiveness is a single act, a one-time decision.
Forgiveness means taking away the consequences of the person’s behavior.
Forgiveness is easy.
Forgiving includes forgetting what the person did to hurt us.
Forgiveness means we must reconnect to the person who hurt us and go back to the relationship.
Forgiveness means letting people “off the hook.”
Forgiveness means all negative feelings about the experience of hurt are gone.
There is a limit to how much we can and should forgive.
We can forgive someone without feeling the feelings of what they did to us.
When we forgive, we will know immediately we have forgiven them.
Forgiveness requires the other person to be sorry.
Forgiveness is weakness.
Forgiveness is letting the offender win.
Forgiveness is an option for Christians.